Searching For Something New

Dearest Este,

So I was jilted. Ok that's dramatic lol I've been single for a little over two years now. My last relationship ended after a mutual agreement. Some how this mutual agreement turned into an "open relationship" (i'm still not sure how that happened) and we were in this over dramatic hook up that wouldn't end lol It went on for a lot longer than I had anticipated and I felt myself drifting away. If I met myself today I wouldn't recognize myself. We were together without a title and he was ok with this. I felt myself holding back and unable to move on with my life. He wasn't having much trouble doing this.

Fortunately, I was able to break away from this and have gotten the chance to start a new. Only problem ... I don't know how. I really feel like I've lost myself. I don't look like I did two and a half years ago and I really dont think I act the same. Being single for this long, I've developed this weird fear of dating. I really dont even know how to talk to guys. It's really unlike me.

So I guess my question is .... how should I go about finding something new? & are you going to tell me that I need to love myself before someone else can love me? Because I do love myself lol I'm just going through some shit .. HELP!

- Searching For Something New (SFSN)

Answer

Well first and foremost, lets all praise the lord that you let go of that LOSER! Since you have developed this weird fear of dating, you need to take things slowly, SFSN. Things always come into our lives unexpectedly. Do the typical things woman do when they want to mingle with men. Try going to school events, meet up with friends, find a cutie at the apple store (voted the best place to find a man according to the NY Times of course..lol). Ultimately what I am saying is, don't pay much attention to it, just live your life and be social. Since you seen to be pretty confident I do not think this will be a problem. Something will def come your way. But maintain a good balance between being social and being available. I know, I know....its a sick sad world..lol. Have FUN and Embrace your weirdness lol, I did.

Scream My Name

Dearest Este,

My BF and I have been together for 2 yrs.  The sex between us is always good and satisfying.  We currently live together in a cheap 3 family house in Brooklyn (the walls are paper thin).  The guy who lives upstairs is somewhat of a player.  I always hear him having sex with different women at all times of the day and it basically makes me horny and want to fuck my BF.  Heres the problem, after this guy moved away (might be having a dry spell) i've lose my appetite for sex.  Am I Crazy!? How can I overcome this and have amazing sex with my BF again?

- Scream My Name (SMN)

Advice

No you're actually not crazy at all, SMN.  Your totally normal actually.  I'm suspecting you might actually be one of those women that gets very turned on by sounds. I have a few suggestions which you will want to discuss with your bf :

 - Try making some of our own sounds during sex.  Be that jungle sex couple.

- Try putting on some porn in the background with lots of moaning that might do it for you.

- The next time you hear this guy, assuming he's going thru a dry spell, record him.  (just make sure its not on so loud that he can hear it and recognize it.  If he's a kinky neighbor, which he probably is then he'll be turned on and want to make noise with you...AHHH! totally joking by the way. 

Talk to your boyfriend and come to a compromise, if that doesn't work SMN then get back to me.  I might have something up my sleeve

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My Life Is A Joke

Dearest Este,

So I have history with this guy. Lots of back and forth, lots of flirting. He now has a girlfriend, This has not stopped the back and forth, this has not stopped the flirting. I want him, he wants me, but he says I always have bad timing. We kissed and it was pretty much amazing. Now, for the question. What is a girl to do este? should she be a home-wrecker and continue this on the low charade or should she just do her own thing and wait till things fall apart with his current girlfriend naturally? The man wouldn't mind the messing around on the low and things aren't looking too bright in his relationship. Help!

- My Life is a Joke (MLJ)

Advice

As i've recently realized people can be very selfish in this world.  I'm a stern believer in having your cake and eating it too but this Male is just RIDICULOUS.  I honestly think that he wants you and his girlfriend all at the same time and that I am against of.  That is unfair to you and his girlfriend.  And this whole you have "bad timing"..UMMM BULLSHIT.  If he wanted to really be with you he would have made his move on you already and not chosen the other girl.  I say you do your own thing.  I'm not sure how I feel about this guy's morals.  If he's flirting with you and he has a girlfriend, what makes you think we won't do it if he's with you.  I suggest you dump that motherfucker and do you own thang girl, you deserve someone soo much better and someone who is not giving you the run-around.  Now if he breaks up with his girlfriend and you need some lovin' go for it, but don't get to emotionally attached..keep the fool as a fuck buddy.  Men like mean women lol. Oh and MLJ feel free to respond. Hope this helped. 

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Pues Saudos!

hey world,

I hate blogging but I thought this would be fun.  The Awkward Fetus in my life inspired me to start this blog, so I did because I do everything the Awkward Fetus says.  Nothing is off limits, you can comment on anything, respond with your own advice, patronize my advice, curse me out, w.e.  I enjoy inappropriate behavior.  I think its funny

So if you have a question you just Email : AskEste@gmail.com 

i'll be glad to answer you Questions.  and if you know me try not to uh, blow up my spot sen!

as time goes on i'll try to make this site a little nicer lol